Don’t burn or bury your organs! Pass it on.

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The current organ donation per million for cadaver (dead body) in India is 0.05 per million).

At just 2-3 per million donation rate there would be 2200 organ donors and the above figures would double and there would be no necessity to undertake living kidney donations.

But saying stuff like “After I die, donate my organs to people who need them” is frowned upon.
In fact, you can see your family members wincing right after they hear the first three words.

Experts say that the key to organ donation is the acceptance of brain death by family,
as the final consent to donate organs comes from the family even if the person is carrying a Donor Card.

Note:

  1. In case of Natural death only, cornea (relatively easy to transplant) and skin can be donated.
  2. Kidneys (within 12-15 hours), liver (within 8-12 hours) and heart (within 4 hours) of only brain dead,
    can be donated.
  3. The donation of body can be made to a medical college only.

For starters you can pledge and apply for donor card as per below process but its optional
though it saves some formalities with the hospital.
What you need to do is to make sure your friends and relatives know that you want to donate your organs after death. If something happens to you that causes brain death then your next-of-kin will be asked for permission to use your functioning organs for transplant.

Then that person will contact nearby hospital, let them know the situation and go along with the process as detailed.

How to Pledge Organs:

  1. Log on to website of NOTTO (National Organ & Tissue Transplant Organisation) and register.
  2. Once registered, fill the Donor Pledge form and submit it.
  3. Once submitted, an email alert will inform the user to log on to the site to generate a donor card.
  4. Print the donor card.

Here are the links for some other good organisations that I could find:

  1. Donate Life India
  2. Organ India | Organ Donation in India
  3. Gift Your Organ Foundation ::

Again, do discuss with your family before registering. They have the power to not let the organisation perform their duties after death, because in the end their decision will be final. So their consent is very important.

To sum up:
Currently in India, Organ donation is a topic which if its not associated with any celebrity, will live in obscurity. Its in our hands to mend the mindset of this generation otherwise this flow will go on.

But why we want the body parts burn or buried, just because of traditions?
If yes, then it had to be changed.

To support the cause, Government can give appropriate benefits to those who have pledged for organ donation. And to avoid any family’s disagreement over the body in the future, Government should block some part of insurance amount (which was earlier agreed upon by the the donor).
Or something similar can be done if people show interests of at least half as much as they show in cricket.



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Is this really Love ?

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While crossing the road, I saw the most beautiful girl ever on the other side. My heart started pounding, my stomach started misbehaving etc. So does that mean I am in Love?
I was giving some thoughts to it but all of a sudden a car screeched hard and I went blank.

I woke up (not in the hospital since fortunately I was dreaming). And here I am pondering over the same question, as how to know if you are really in Love.
I mean is there any measures by which you could determine this feeling?. As maybe its infatuation.

There is a fine line.

Though Love has no definition, I have listed out few points which in most of the cases will help you realize. And out of these 8, if you agree with at least 6 statements, you are probably experiencing true love.

1. You know you love someone when you are willing to make sacrifices for them. When you love a child or a friend or a family member, you can envision yourself making sacrifices for them to keep them safe (giving your life for them, as an example). Even the love of hobbies can be expressed as a sacrifice (sacrificing your time in exchange for doing the hobby).

2. See if your loved one makes you want to be a better person.

3. Though being happy with the relationship you have and the person that you are is essential, being with your loved one should make you want to take your life to the next level and to be the best person you can possibly be—eventually.

4. Irrespective of your gender, you feel safe when you’re around her/him. It’s hard to describe this feeling, but it really is the best thing in the world. Like nothing bad can happen.

5. If you’re aware of your loved one’s flaws –  but all you can manage to see is perfection. If you insist that your loved one is perfect, then you have a real problem. But if you’re comfortable admitting that your loved one can be a bit selfish or isn’t the world’s greatest listener, then you have a more realistic perspective on the relationship and are much more likely to be in love for real. 

6. When your prayers, wishes and dreams are for realization of someone else’s dreams and aspirations.

7. When the person is at his or her lowest, you don’t shun but stay by their side.

8. It makes you more generous and kinder to others not only to your loved ones.

9. You respect that person and respective choices. Even if you are seperate, you will find your happiness if that person is happy, at least eventually.

Love is a gradual process and happens over time.  It is unconditional and real.
But sometimes we love people who are totally wrong for us. That doesn’t mean we are to be held entirely responsible. It just means that person wasn’t good enough for our care and affection and we were a little weak in judge of character.

All in all, self love is the best way to attract true love. Love yourself with all your heart, for who you are and for who you are not. If you don’t have love for yourself, you can’t expect to get it from someone else.

Things to do when wife’s pregnant…

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While writing the title of this article, I earlier had ‘she’ instead of ‘wife’. My friend laughed off me and help me proofread it.
Anyways, recently when I found out about her pregnancy, I went to meet her (after months). And after few greetings *cough* non-stop synonyms of curses *cough*, we went down the memory lane as her super caring husband was at his office, we chatted like anything.

I told her about my current hobby (blogging) to which she asks me to cover her up as well. Hence I relented (I had to). So coming back to the topic, I have made a list of the things which her husband does everyday…yes you heard it right.

So here we go in her own words..

1. He wakes up early in the morning around 6:00 am and prepares tiffin for me and for himself. He don’t know how to make chapati, so I make it and he will do the roasting part, so except chapati, he cooks everything.

2. Once I wake up, he reminds me to eat almonds and drink water (as suggested by our doctor).

3. Sometimes he makes breakfast for me like bread omelette, boiled sprouts, cheese toast and tea in the evenings.

4. He always fills my water bottle with glucose.

5. In evenings, everyday he brings coconut water and fruits and ensures there are enough fruits at home and they were being consumed regularly by me.

6. Later he cooks and after dinner he reminds me to take medicines with glass of milk.

7. In night, he always makes sure my sleeping position is right also there were two extra pillows in our bed to keep under my feet to prevent any swellings.

8. On weekends, he would cut my toe nails since its kind of hard to bent.

9. He bears with all the tantrums calmly I threw due to hormonal changes.

10. He comforts me whenever the anxiety of a delivery frightens me.

All the above things may seem small, but I wouldn’t have this comfortable pregnancy without any of the above.

After listening to this, I was amazed more on the consistency than on the points. Seriously, I was feeling envious if this is the kind of care a women (like her 😛 ) is subjected to.

Questions before they leave…

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When my friend’s parents passed away last year, he didn’t really realize how many things he would’ve liked to have known about them and their preferences and how much of their insight he would miss. Its been an year and thankfully he has almost sorted out himself at least to an extent.

When we were discussing about all these stuff, he opened himself and told me few things one should be knowing before its too late, which I have compiled as below:

1. Ask them about their youth. You would wish you knew more about how they handled/dealt with their own personal loss.

2. Ask about their first car (for instance) – like what they bought, what they paid, where and how they got the money. You’ll not only learn about their taste in cars, but about how they view their financial world.

3. Ask about their wedding- how did he propose, what did she wear, did they have a honeymoon? This will provide an insight of their subtle romances.

4. Ask about one of the worst times of their lives.

5. Ask about your family tree – you never know, at some point it will be important to you or your children. Have few recordings of them on random events or just unpretentious. Do not probe like any news channel. Just be casual.

6. Ask them, “Is there anything that if I were to find it out later, you would have regretted not telling me?” . Although this sounds harsh, but sometimes family secrets perish just because of lack of knowledge.

7. Know where they keep the important stuff – both practical (financial) and sentimental.

8. Lastly, thank them. If you are a parent yourself, right now, you know why, and if you are not yet, then simply thank them for not abandoning you to wolves one evening when their patience had worn thin 🙂 .

Mind it, you can not taking a viva or exam, keep it simple. Like one of my friend, made a point no matter how busy you are, just once a month, get dressed up and go to a fancy dinner. You can switch who would pay also. There you can spend some memorable time along with some pun chats.

And in addition to all above, you can sign up for StoryWorth – it’s a service that asks a question a week to your parents and records their answers.

Must questions before Marriage…

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I faced the typical version of arranged marriage system recently. And since I talked to her and tried to get to know her before marriage, it helped me immensely in adjusting with her later on.

Below are the list of 15 questions that I found are must for the prospective bride/groom.
And since I am male, I will be writing in the same reference but rest assured, my words are never biased 🙂

1. Ask why the person wants to get married now or why he didn’t married yet and if he/she is not doing so under any pressure. There are many youngsters in India, who just say yes to meet someone or marry someone because their family pressurizes them to do so.

2. What are the expectations from life partner. This is very important. This tells about their dreams and wishes.

3. Tell your doubts upright and ask if they are okay with it.
One example my guy friend told as, “when I was talking to my government officer wife (before marriage), I asked her why wouldn’t she choose another lady officer from her batch? Why was she settling down for an engineer? She said she didn’t want an officer husband but a supportive, understanding person. Her answer assured me that later on he would not make me feel inferior to her male officer batch mates.

4. Ask about his/her dreams, future plans and goals. A (other) friend’s marriage ended up in divorce because the wife always wanted to become an actress and the husband didn’t wanted the same. They had not discussed this part earlier and both of them had made assumptions on their own.

5. Ask about any medical issues. Most of the times we avoid and end up in “I didn’t tell you since you didn’t asked” kind of pointless arguments. Apart from this you can cover anger management as wellAnd how she keeps her calm under such scenarios.

6. Tell her about things and people that are the most important to you and ask the
same about her.

7. Focus more on the words and what the person says and less on how he/she says. I mean do not look for perfect grammar and accent, instead pay heed to the meaning in their words.

8. Who will be working and who will do parenting? Or both will be Working. Ask the girl whether she wants to continue with her profession after marriage also. If you are looking for a homemaker, then tell this upfront that your expectations are different.

9. Is she comfortable staying with your family or she want to stay apart from family after marriage?

10. Who is going to take care of home and other stuff after marriage if both will be working?

11. Ask about the friends and family members and with whom she has good bonding. This includes past relationships also. And this will assure her that you are not only interested in her but her life as well.

12. What is/are the thing(s) you don’t want to stop doing even after Marriage ?
This can include a discussion of surnames as well. Though in most of cases, bride-to-be has no issues but why presume?

13. What are the financial resources we can depend on, if we both become jobless after Marriage?

14. Is there any future plan to relocation or settle in abroad after marriage?

15. Out of the blue:
If you won the lottery, what would you do? These kind of questions (under polite demeanor), may reveal the true subconscious nature of the person.


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